What is the Shy Man's Dating School?

It's a workshop for men who want to enjoy meeting and dating women. In a relaxed, supportive environment, the workshop presents tools for meeting, flirting, interacting, and having fun.

Who might benefit?

Any man who feels too shy to approach a woman he's attracted to. This could be a young man who simply lacks practice, or it could be an older man, divorced perhaps, and trying to remember how the dating game works.

What happens in a typical class?

We're a supportive bunch, and we laugh a lot. We use improv and role playing to practice how to approach a woman, how to flirt, and how to read and interpret a woman's signals. Through all of it, we're working to bring out each man's strengths, to let him know it's okay to be himself.

Can you actually teach guys how to flirt?

Yes. Most tongue-tied guys are so pressured with trying to think of the next thing to say, they miss all the subtle signals that women are sending. Flirting is simply playful communication, but you've got to receive the signal before you can send it back. Our men practice all this and help each other get better at it.

Is this just a class to get pick-up lines?

Men are always hoping to find the magic technique that will allow them to pick up women without risking rejection. The best technique isn't magic at all; it's for each man to recognize what his unique gifts are and what makes him attractive to women. Once he does this, he can be himself. He'll find someone who likes him for who he is.

Why are you teaching this course?

I was very shy growing up. I never dated, but I longed to be able to talk to women and ask them out. Amazingly enough, I ended up in sales where I was forced to interact if I was going to earn a living. I watched and listened and finally learned what to do. Now, I actually train other sales people. I'm good at this, and I'd like to pass those skills on to others.

How does training sales people translate into a course for dating?

I identify people's unique gifts and give them permission to sell from those gifts. Of course, I give them the tools of selling, but I also teach them to treat customers with respect. I've developed and still teach a course for sales team building in which people learn how to interact, how to listen, and how to deal with rejection. It's not hard to see how all this transfers to any human interaction - especially to dating.

Where else would guys go to get this information?

There are books and coaches for socially active people who are looking for Mr. or Miss Right. But this course helps the man whose shyness won't let him even approach an attractive woman. I wish I'd found a course like this years ago.

How long does it take to see results?

After only one class, a man will have tools he can use immediately. After twelve classes, a man will have learned and practiced a great many skills. As a teacher, my greatest satisfaction comes from the “AHA” moment when a man says, “You mean . . . I can just be myself?” I believe our strengths are already inside us; the Shy Man's Dating School simply brings them out.